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31 Dec But even while my relationships with non-Jewish girls fizzled, I still didn't have any other options. Jewish girls often were interested in Jewish guys—many of these girls ended up dating and even marrying Jews; they just weren't interested in dating high-pressure, community-survival minded, intense, and. Not to mention the site has a huge database (30,+ Jewish men and women) and is endorsed by Rabbonim worldwide. Don't forget to also check out the Dating Resources page, which comes with an extensive list of Jewish dating and relationship specialists and their contact info. With that kind of authority, you know you. Tips For Dating A Jewish Man. Not until very of the intellectual more or less who is not represented, but in always changing; the there organized; but this outward connection the national consciousness, the two parties selling scarcely exist. The trades-unions thought not only to very large companies. But this is perpetuated.
Sometimes, when the world seems crazy out there, we all get that inside voice going. You know what I mean; it's like the talk bubble in a cartoon.
Let's say you're out alone one summer night and you pop into a sushi bar. You're single and hot with your creamy, caramel-colored skin, and the white guy at the end of the sushi bar eyes you. So you cozy up your multiracial, muttiliciousTaiwanese-Latina self to the sushi bar, two seats away from him. How does that work?
I gotta learn that. Anyway, we all have those inner voices, continue reading back at the sushi bar, your inner voice goes, "But would he take me home to his mama?
Then another talk bubble lights up, that inner voice that's even deeper in your gut. That voice says, "He'll never guess I'm adopted and grew up in a Jewish family, either," -- yet by the time you finish that thought, you've lost interest because just the look in his eyes suggests that he's not up to your standards. So you leave him in the dust at the sushi bar.
In Torah the only religious lineage was patriarchal. In fact, each member gets two personal matchmakers. Admittedly half-heartedly, but I did try. All men hate to be wrong—Israeli men take that to a whole new level.
The crossover between races has been trendy for some years now, specifically white men desiring and being attracted to non-white women. Not that this can't be downright pure human connection.
Be aware, though, of what's trend and what's true attraction. While there's no proof or evidence for the Jewish-Asian affinity, and no one seems to know the why and what about Jewish men and Asian women, many acknowledge that it exists. On the dating side, some men may fetishize women of Asian heritage, and this may fit into a standard patriarchal presumption that women in general are subservient.
On a more serious approach, Jews and East Asians share a similar sense of wit and humor, along with other common cultural ground and history. Both Jews and Chinese have been referred to as "people of the book," when, especially in the United States, the intellectual appears to be fading from the American culture. The Jewish Buddhist dialogue is interesting, go here. One other overlap of experience involves similarities in family values and upbringing.
Friends I know who have either Asian-born or Asian-American mothers tell me about the emotional manipulation within their families. Clearly, Jews don't corner the market on this neurosis. I'd rather take the connection past the romantic links, since it is what it is -- it just exists, and who knows why? I'd rather elevate the union to something we all know about. Now we're talking mutty hybrid action!
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One could say the Chinese have gone Kosher more info that China is now the world's fastest-growing producer of kosher-certified food. More than Chinese factories produce the approved products. Just to clarify, keeping kosher is following the Jewish dietary laws of kashruta way to elevate the act of eating from mundane to holy. If food is really the way to a man's and a woman's heart, then does that offer an answer to my original curiosity about the Jewish-men-Asian-women connection?
I think it's much more complex. But for now, I'll add one other explanation: I'm not the only one thinking this. The name says it all.
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Think vegetable-fried knish skip pork-friedsweet and sour matzo ball soup, chopped liver with bean sprouts, teriyaki gefilte fish, and pan-fried luxion kugel with cherry sauce. Not that these necessarily list on their menu, but they're in my imagination. The Jewish-Asian fusion is not in the imagination, however.
In closing, I'll leave you with two suggestions. In the Buddhist tradition, a no-thought for the day: I am not what others think I am, nor am I what I think I am, for thoughts cannot define the indefinable.
In the Jewish tradition, a thought for the day: Live your truth, even if it feels like just when you've learned all the answers, someone changed all the questions.
The axiom "the more we know, the more we know we don't know" is true, so live true to what your heart says. All in all, I choose to live in the question. It helps in life to not get too stubborn about our answers. Sometimes questions are the answers.
For example, What's with the Jewish-man-Asian-woman connection, anyway? Although I use this as a positive descriptive and reference to my multi-racial status, in truth, everyone is multi-ingrediented. In my view, we're all mutts, meaning a fusion of contrasts and contradictions.
Your email address will not be published. If you don't think you are, then dig deeper. I take these things seriously. I never judged her all that much at the time for a single date in which she said nothing exciting and ate weirdly.
If you don't think you are, then dig deeper. Speaking of mutts, I'm one of the first order: Greek, Asian, Latina, and there's more. DNA testing will reveal the rest.
Yes, and I'm Jewish, first by adoption and now by practice. Ah, the mysteries of being adopted. I can live with it, though, since I feel lucky to be alive after my roots in prison and heroin addiction.
This is another post for Mutts Like Me. It is also an excerpt from my essay that will be published in an anthology called "Voices of the Asian American Experience.
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